Many of my subs were totally new to Femdom when they came to submit to me. What may seem obvious to some more experienced subs isn’t necessarily evident for newer ones. And as if the Femdom etiquette wasn’t complicated enough, even dommes themselves often seem confused as to which title they should go by, unsure of how to act accordingly, resulting in even more confused subs… So, how do you refer to a domme? How to be a good sub? What should you avoid to do so you don’t come across as rude? How do you truly submit?

How should I refer to you?

My name is Theodora. Goddess is my title. Which means most people will call me Theodora, except you: you will refer to me as Goddess Theodora, or simply Goddess. It may sound obvious, but even outside of a Dominant/Submissive relationship, mistakes are often made. For example, I have seen publications about me referring to me as “Goddess Theodora”. This is understandable when the article is written by a sub, otherwise people outside of a D/S relationship with me should simply refer to me as Theodora. I am French, and nicknames aren’t really a thing where I am from, so by all means, avoid calling me Theo unless I gave you my permission to do so, which is very unlikely to happen if you are a sub. Nicknames are reserved for close friends.


Goddess, Queen, Princess, Mistress… Who does what?

Subs should always use their domme’s title, capitalized, when referring to them. Don’t try using any other title that you fancy: even though your intentions are good, it may come across as rude to do so. While some dommes go by the title “Princess”, in which case it is required from you to refer to them as such, any domme whose title is “Goddess”, “Queen” or “Empress” will most likely take “Princess” as an insult. Not that a “Princess” is worth less than a “Goddess”…

The difference lies in their personality and how the power exchange is viewed: a Princess will have demands, and wants to be spoiled. A Goddess, rather than being spoiled, expects to be worshipped, hence the notion of tributes. It’s a matter of vocabulary. “Princess” conveys possible notions of brattiness and youth, it often has a lolita vibe to it. “Mistress” is a different story : it conveys notions of closeness and/or intimacy, of seduction even, which is why it is a popular title amongst BDSM dommes who engage in the most intimate practices in physical domination, such as pegging, for example. “Goddess”, on the contrary, conveys notion of inaccessibility, of idealism. It also entails a strong, iconic imagery. Don’t expect the same practices from a Goddess than from a Mistress. Also, if a Mistress doesn’t always have a face in order to protect her privacy, a Goddess on the opposite, capitalizes on her physical attributes. She is the icon of her own cult.

Now, the number of titles that you will come across in the scene is ever-growing, but these are the titles you are most likely to encounter. I, myself, have elected to be a Goddess. I will tolerate to be approached as “Majesty”, but you will be expected to correct yourself and call me by the right title when further interacting with me. “Princess” or “Mistress”, on the other hand, will not be considered acceptable. Making sure you are calling your domme by the right title is a great first step into submitting.


I want to become your slave, Goddess!

At least, you got the title right… But now, you need to understand the difference between a sub and a slave. We all know what true slavery is: History has shown us how serious it could get. Slavery to Female Dominants is no different, except for one thing… It is consensual. A slave gives up his right to choose: he will be expected to obey without question. His only purpose is to serve. He doesn’t expect anything in return. It’s a one-way relationship. A slave doesn’t get to “want” anything, he will not make demands. He will totally surrender to his domme, who then becomes responsible for his safety. He belongs to her, she owns him. A sub is a person who wishes to engage in a Dominant/Submissive relationship, where he will get to explore fetishes in the role of… The submissive, obviously. He will be listened to by the dominant, who will decide whether to grant his possible requests or not, depending of their own fetishes. Again, that may sound obvious, but the number of subs coming to me introducing themselves as slaves, only to make demands, negotiate or question my orders at the first opportunity is high enough to be worth an article. Knowing what you really want out of domination start with knowing how to define yourself first.


How do I approach you? What is a good slave?

You exist to make my existence better. I already have everything I want, the only thing I can never get enough of is, you guessed it, money. I have enough shoes or clothes I don’t need already, therefore buying me sexy gifts is a privilege reserved to my owned moneyslaves. It shows affection rather than devotion. A good sub/slave knows this and will show his devotion by tributing consistently. I’m sure you noticed that I already have many devoted finsubs and that I am highly in demand, consequently, only real sacrifice will get you noticed. Approach respectfully with a monetary tribute that reflects your motivation to be owned by me.


I want to do real time sessions… What do you do and how much do you charge?

I am sure you are aware that I specialize in financial domination. But it would be more accurate to say that I specialize in psychological domination, as opposed to physical domination. My real time sessions consist essentially of Femdom hypnosis, foot and shoe worship, spit/smoke fetish, cashmeets, shopping sprees… And Contractual Financial Domination (terms will only be discussed in private). Real time sessions are mostly reserved for my finsubs and owned financial slaves, who have proven consistent with their tithes and tributes. Which is why I don’t charge a fixed price for sessions: they are a part of the findom relationship I have with my subs, and as such, how much I will ask for a session will vary: my moneyslaves are expected to do their best in terms of financial sacrifice for me. If you aren’t one of my subs yet and really want to meet me, don’t expect it to be cheap. I will expect real sacrifice from you. Never ask me “how much”. If it doesn’t hurt, it probably isn’t enough. If you want a fixed price, you should order a custom clip from me instead. That will get you noticed.


What is financial domination?

I get asked about financial domination many times a day, by subs and aspiring dommes alike. This fetish takes root in psychological domination. It’s only a different way of viewing power exchange, where money is the fetish. Basically, the financial sub surrenders his finances to his domme, or he will let his domme take control of them, as a way to give up his financial freedom. No wonder the number of findommes in the scene is ever-growing… Although it may sound like easy money for the aspiring findomme, true financial domination requires both profound knowledge of psychology and experience in female domination. Moreover, financial domination rarely exists on its own. Rather, it is only one fetish among many others.


Ready to submit? Contact me to surrender to your Only Goddess…



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Hypnosis, especially in Female Domination, is surrounded by myths and tends to scare off the most experienced sub. It has earned such a bad reputation that the word itself has been banned from various fetish clip websites, who prefer to avoid any argument with credit card companies, or so they say. Can hypnosis really make you do anything? Does it work on everyone? Is hypnosis that dangerous?

What is hypnosis?

Hypnosis is actually everywhere. It exists in many shapes and forms, from very simple suggestions to highly sophisticated programmations. It can be a conversational mode, or it can be a therapeutic session. At school, the best teachers you have had were natural hypnotists: they build rapport, validate a concern, rephrase and reframe, add kinaesthetic imagery, find your resources, and help you build on it. When going on a date, maybe you’ve found yourself entranced, mesmerized by your date: he or she has, deliberately or not, been building rapport with you, using kinaesthetic, maybe even sexual imagery, and rewarding (consciously or not) signs of compliance from you. Seduction is a form of hypnosis, and a very powerful one at that. Maybe you have actually been using hypnosis yourself when trying to seduce someone… Knowing how powerful these simple forms of hypnosis can be, it’s only logical to think that more advanced forms of hypnosis, such as Ericksonian hypnosis or Neuro Linguistic Programming, would allow deep transformations and intense sensations when combined with knowledge of human psychology.


Can hypnosis make me do anything?

Here’s the thing. Hypnosis only works if you want it to. Hypnosis shows you the possible paths and can help you find the mental strength to open a door for something. But in the end, it’s always your choice to follow that path or not, to go through that door or just leave it closed. Remember that friend of yours who tried hypnosis to quit smoking, and told you it didn’t work? That was because deep down, he or she never really wanted to quit in the first place. So no, hypnosis won’t turn you into a weak mindless puppet against your will. And no, you can’t be persuaded to empty your bank account if you didn’t want to do it in the first place. Which is why the ban of hypnosis on some websites is useless: not only hypnosis is everywhere in various forms, but it will never make you do anything you don’t ACTUALLY want to do. It is not hypnosis that is dangerous… It’s what YOU intend to do with it that is, how far YOU are willing to go… Provided you found an hypnotist who agreed to help you go there, and who you can trust. Femdom hypnosis is exactly like everything else in BDSM. It has to be consensual. And your domme will always make sure of the safety of anything you decide to engage in. In the end, you are the one deciding… That’s the beauty of it. The resources are in your mind already, and the hypnotist only sheds light on them.


So… Can I be an hypnotist too?

We all are hypnotists, to some extent. But to be able to use it with everyone, in any situation and for any specific concern, it takes years of daily practice and a solid knowledge of psychology. In the Femdom world, there has always been a fascination for hypnosis, but very few dominatrices have the professional training and knowledge to actually be able to use it in their sessions. Femdom hypnosis is an advanced form of hypnosis, and you can’t run before you’ve learned to walk first. When using hypnosis for specific needs, you will have to structure your session using an appropriate induction, to engage visualisation using specific words… You will have to know how to adapt to the type of personality you are working with, which is were psychology comes in handy. True hypnosis cannot be scripted, just like seduction can’t either. Just saying the “right lines” won’t get you anywhere if you don’t adapt to the client or build rapport… Which is why it is so difficult to find great femdom hypnosis videos online: the hypnotist will have to use different techniques and find ways to compensate for the lack of direct feedback or communication.


How do I know it will work on me?

You have to find an hypnotist you trust with their skills and abilities. Although the title “hypnodomme” is used by everyone and their brother, it is easy to spot a true hypnotist. Go read their websites. A true hypnotist is very unlikely to use swirl effect filters while wiggling their assets to the camera – not that there is anything wrong with it… Although you might want to get the real deal rather than paying for no results. You will easily be able to tell if they are just selling the fantasy or if they are clinically trained and experimented. I always use this image : hypnosis works like Shibari, the Japanese art of ropes. You can be a beginner, and do simple tricks, simple knots, like with erotic hypnosis, which can already make an impression if done right. Or you can be a skilled professional, and play more dangerous games… But it takes years and years of practice to master these more advanced, riskier techniques. Since you’re reading this, I’m guessing you are willing to play with fire…


Hypnosis videos seem long, boring even… Do I have to view them several times?

Not at all… In fact, you will notice that my videos are quite short compared to more classic, vanilla hypnosis files. Because in BDSM we are playing with darkest, deepest desires that would normally be worked against, it is then far easier to develop and implant concepts in less time than usually required when using hypnosis for therapeutic purpose. Noticed how quickly you can get a bad habit, and how long it takes you to get rid of it? That principle is the foundation for all my Femdom hypnosis videos… You can always view a clip you like several times, for deeper effects, but unlike with vanilla hypnosis it isn’t a necessity at all with my videos.


I have a request regarding custom hypnosis

My website is ever expanding, but in case you haven’t found the hypnosis video you are looking for yet, submit a custom clip request here, or message me for suggestions. If I believe it would benefit my clientele, I might release something that caters to your hypnotic needs… It is also possible to arrange a real time session (mostly in Paris) or a Skype session with me. This privilege is mostly reserved to my long term subs, but I might indulge your fantasy if you have a financial domination fetish…



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Any reproduction and/or partial or complete use of content and services offered by The Only Theodora™, by any means whatsoever, without the prior written authorization of The Only Theodora™ and affiliates, is strictly prohibited and constitutes an infringement under Articles L 335-2, Articles L 343-1 and following of the Code of Intellectual Property, national regulations and international conventions. Violation of these provisions subjects the offender and all persons responsible for criminal and civil penalties provided by law and will be subject to prosecution.