Abbreviations such as Femdom and Findom, contractions of Female domination and Financial domination respectively, are widely used in the BDSM world. But it seems that psychological domination, although not being exceptionally rare, doesn’t even have a nickname of its own yet. Today, a simple search for the hashtag #Psydom on Twitter or Instagram will prove quite deceiving indeed… Why not give Psydom, or psychological domination, a true and highly intriguing BDSM art, its rightful glory?
What is Psydom?
Psydom is the word resulting from the contraction of Psychological domination. Psychology is the science of the mind, therefore Psydom is the art of dominating the mind. If physical domination often requires tools, such as whips and crops, and skills to match – corporal punishment isn’t about hitting as hard as one can, and whoever tried to use a bullwhip knows how much practice it takes to master its use, psychological domination is no different. In Psydom, communication, rather than words, is the main weapon, hence the necessary knowledge of psychology, as well as various language and communication techniques. The infamous Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Ericksonian hypnosis, and non-verbal communication are some of them. Humiliation, which requires a knowledge of fetishes, could be considered as the psychological equivalent of corporal punishment, and behavioral modification or hypnosis, forms of mental bondage. Psydom comprises a vast array of skills and applications, which make for a fascinating art to master… Which is why I have chosen to become a Psydomme myself.
What does psychology do?
With psychology, it is possible to understand where fetishes take root, through Freudian symbolism for instance. An advanced knowledge of Freudian symbolism allows to make pertinent metaphors during hypnosis sessions. Psychology also helps predict and understand a specific behaviour in regard to an experienced event (behavioral psychology). Given that fetishes are often formed from an experienced event, not only the Psydomme would understand the particular fetish of a psysub, but she would be able to carry the whole session in a safe manner while being in the right direction, as she would know what reactions or emotions she would trigger. Obviously, this is an extremely valuable asset for dominatrices who want to truly be in control during the session.
Similarly to physical domination, psychological domination isn’t without risks and the potential damage, although less visible is very real and solid knowledge of behavioral psychology is essential to prevent it. During a session (this is particularly true for hypnosis sessions), it is possible for the sub to experience trauma stimulus (or trauma trigger), the resurfacing of repressed memories of a traumatic event, although this tends to be rare and easily avoided, when using safety anchors or suggestions beforehand for example. Exactly like for bondage during a physical domination session, safety is of utmost importance in psychological domination, and a skilled Psydomme will always make a point taking care of it.
The power of non-verbal communication
If knowledge of psychology is essential in order to be a successful Psydomme, it also requires both verbal and non-verbal advanced communication skills. Neuro Linguistic Programming, a science based on words and the daughter of Ericksonian hypnosis, may have gained popularity amongst dominatrices, but using it on its own would result in a very poor Psydom experience for the psysub, since verbal communication is believed to account for only about 7 percent of interpersonal communication… Which means that about 93% of interpersonal communication is actually non-verbal! Non-verbal communication includes kinesics (body movements), posture, proxemics (the distance between two subjects), para-language (tone of voice, speed of speech), and eye contact. In this era of technology, video, be it clips or Skype sessions, allows for great Psydom relationships, long distance or not, since it conveys most of the non-verbal communication previously impossible to carry through phone domination, not to mention outside of a real time session. I, myself use video a lot – my custom clips especially are highly in demand – with great success in developing a profound, intimate connection with my subs.
Taking it further
Those seeking intense sensations know it well: nothing beats real life domination sessions. Beyond the evident overwhelming feeling that meeting your domme can provoke, being able to breathe the same air comes with a few other privileges: the scent of her perfume or even the touch of her nails grazing your skin if you are lucky, for example. These may seem like tiny details at first, but the feeling of expectation will amplify them tremendously, and they will carry a much greater significance given the exceptional character of the encounter. An experienced Psydomme would know exactly how to make use of this…
If psydom sessions don’t allow any kind of sexual contact, this doesn’t mean there will not be any non-sexual contact either. In fact, that non-sexual contact can be another extremely powerful form of communication, or if you prefer, another way to convey strong suggestions to you and manipulate you further! Dating coaches and pick up artists know it well, non-sexual touch, “kino”, as they call it, can be a true weapon of seduction. If used the right way, it can also convey power! I happen to be the daughter of a psychologist and hypnotherapist who wrote various books on the subject and have had the privilege of learning these techniques as they were being researched – I do offer coaching sessions in Paris if you’re an aspiring Psydomme looking to develop your communication skills, body language and NLP technique (contact me for details).
All these fascinating techniques are what transcends a Psydom relationship and turn a real time psydom session into an intense, exhilarating experience. The ultimate step towards true submission, daring to live your fantasies in the flesh will enable you to embrace your deepest desires and concretize psychological transformations that you never thought you were capable of…
Are you ready to take the plunge? Book your real time session with me now or make your fantasy come true by ordering a custom clip!
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