Many of my subs were totally new to Femdom when they came to submit to me. What may seem obvious to some more experienced subs isn’t necessarily evident for newer ones. And as if the Femdom etiquette wasn’t complicated enough, even dommes themselves often seem confused as to which title they should go by, unsure of how to act accordingly, resulting in even more confused subs… So, how do you refer to a domme? How to be a good sub? What should you avoid to do so you don’t come across as rude? How do you truly submit?
How should I refer to you?
My name is Theodora. Goddess is my title. Which means most people will call me Theodora, except you: you will refer to me as Goddess Theodora, or simply Goddess. It may sound obvious, but even outside of a Dominant/Submissive relationship, mistakes are often made. For example, I have seen publications about me referring to me as “Goddess Theodora”. This is understandable when the article is written by a sub, otherwise people outside of a D/S relationship with me should simply refer to me as Theodora. I am French, and nicknames aren’t really a thing where I am from, so by all means, avoid calling me Theo unless I gave you my permission to do so, which is very unlikely to happen if you are a sub. Nicknames are reserved for close friends.
Goddess, Queen, Princess, Mistress… Who does what?
Subs should always use their domme’s title, capitalized, when referring to them. Don’t try using any other title that you fancy: even though your intentions are good, it may come across as rude to do so. While some dommes go by the title “Princess”, in which case it is required from you to refer to them as such, any domme whose title is “Goddess”, “Queen” or “Empress” will most likely take “Princess” as an insult. Not that a “Princess” is worth less than a “Goddess”…
The difference lies in their personality and how the power exchange is viewed: a Princess will have demands, and wants to be spoiled. A Goddess, rather than being spoiled, expects to be worshipped, hence the notion of tributes. It’s a matter of vocabulary. “Princess” conveys possible notions of brattiness and youth, it often has a lolita vibe to it. “Mistress” is a different story : it conveys notions of closeness and/or intimacy, of seduction even, which is why it is a popular title amongst BDSM dommes who engage in the most intimate practices in physical domination, such as pegging, for example. “Goddess”, on the contrary, conveys notion of inaccessibility, of idealism. It also entails a strong, iconic imagery. Don’t expect the same practices from a Goddess than from a Mistress. Also, if a Mistress doesn’t always have a face in order to protect her privacy, a Goddess on the opposite, capitalizes on her physical attributes. She is the icon of her own cult.
Now, the number of titles that you will come across in the scene is ever-growing, but these are the titles you are most likely to encounter. I, myself, have elected to be a Goddess. I will tolerate to be approached as “Majesty”, but you will be expected to correct yourself and call me by the right title when further interacting with me. “Princess” or “Mistress”, on the other hand, will not be considered acceptable. Making sure you are calling your domme by the right title is a great first step into submitting.
I want to become your slave, Goddess!
At least, you got the title right… But now, you need to understand the difference between a sub and a slave. We all know what true slavery is: History has shown us how serious it could get. Slavery to Female Dominants is no different, except for one thing… It is consensual. A slave gives up his right to choose: he will be expected to obey without question. His only purpose is to serve. He doesn’t expect anything in return. It’s a one-way relationship. A slave doesn’t get to “want” anything, he will not make demands. He will totally surrender to his domme, who then becomes responsible for his safety. He belongs to her, she owns him. A sub is a person who wishes to engage in a Dominant/Submissive relationship, where he will get to explore fetishes in the role of… The submissive, obviously. He will be listened to by the dominant, who will decide whether to grant his possible requests or not, depending of their own fetishes. Again, that may sound obvious, but the number of subs coming to me introducing themselves as slaves, only to make demands, negotiate or question my orders at the first opportunity is high enough to be worth an article. Knowing what you really want out of domination start with knowing how to define yourself first.
How do I approach you? What is a good slave?
You exist to make my existence better. I already have everything I want, the only thing I can never get enough of is, you guessed it, money. I have enough shoes or clothes I don’t need already, therefore buying me sexy gifts is a privilege reserved to my owned moneyslaves. It shows affection rather than devotion. A good sub/slave knows this and will show his devotion by tributing consistently. I’m sure you noticed that I already have many devoted finsubs and that I am highly in demand, consequently, only real sacrifice will get you noticed. Approach respectfully with a monetary tribute that reflects your motivation to be owned by me.
I want to do real time sessions… What do you do and how much do you charge?
I am sure you are aware that I specialize in financial domination. But it would be more accurate to say that I specialize in psychological domination, as opposed to physical domination. My real time sessions consist essentially of Femdom hypnosis, foot and shoe worship, spit/smoke fetish, cashmeets, shopping sprees… And Contractual Financial Domination (terms will only be discussed in private). Real time sessions are mostly reserved for my finsubs and owned financial slaves, who have proven consistent with their tithes and tributes. Which is why I don’t charge a fixed price for sessions: they are a part of the findom relationship I have with my subs, and as such, how much I will ask for a session will vary: my moneyslaves are expected to do their best in terms of financial sacrifice for me. If you aren’t one of my subs yet and really want to meet me, don’t expect it to be cheap. I will expect real sacrifice from you. Never ask me “how much”. If it doesn’t hurt, it probably isn’t enough. If you want a fixed price, you should order a custom clip from me instead. That will get you noticed.
What is financial domination?
I get asked about financial domination many times a day, by subs and aspiring dommes alike. This fetish takes root in psychological domination. It’s only a different way of viewing power exchange, where money is the fetish. Basically, the financial sub surrenders his finances to his domme, or he will let his domme take control of them, as a way to give up his financial freedom. No wonder the number of findommes in the scene is ever-growing… Although it may sound like easy money for the aspiring findomme, true financial domination requires both profound knowledge of psychology and experience in female domination. Moreover, financial domination rarely exists on its own. Rather, it is only one fetish among many others.
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