Financial Domination is undoubtedly one of the most infamous of all fetishes. With the exponential growth encountered by the online domination scene, #Findom has become one of the first kinks on Twitter, making it the second most popular kinky hashtag after #Femdom, and surprisingly, before #BDSM and #Fetish, and is in the top three most represented fetishes along with Female Domination or Cuckolding on clips sites such as Clips4sale and iWantClips. Has Findom become something mainstream? And what does a financial submissive do apart from… Paying?
How does Financial Domination work?
Like in every form of domination (Female domination, Hypnotic domination, Psychological Domination, and so on), Financial domination is a kink based on a power exchange, where the submissive relinquishes control over his finances to his Financial Dominatrix (Findomme). Of course, whenever there is a transfer of power, there is an interaction between the submissive and the dominant. Be it during a real time session or via messages for long distance D/s relationship, this interaction is a prerequisite to any findom relationship as it allows the two protagonists to define the boundaries of the transfer of power, as well as validate consent. Without this interaction, there is no domination. While this might seem obvious, it is still common to encounter fetish enthusiasts who will mistake monetary tributes or tips for Financial Domination. While it is perfectly fine (and much appreciated) to send money (or buy gifts) to your domme outside of a fetish transaction or of a payment for a session, whatever the amount, this doesn’t qualify as financial domination because it doesn’t entail a power exchange. Rather, it is simply a gift, showing devotion and appreciation to your domme. It isn’t rare for successful dominatrices to be showered in gifts and money from their submissives, and they will make the difference between gifts – that don’t require anything from them in return, and financial domination – which requires actual work from them… Similarly, a payment for your session or for a fetish item doesn’t necessarily qualify as financial domination, whatever the amount: outside of the context of a transfer of power, it is just that: a payment for a fetish item or for a session.
Is Financial Domination expensive?
Just like pink furry handcuffs are now readily available in every lingerie shop and not just in specialized stores, you will be able to find amateur findommes on social networks such as Twitter or Instagram accepting two to three figures tributes very easily. One might say that pink furry handcuffs don’t exactly qualify as BDSM nor domination, but I would argue that while it certainly isn’t typical of elite, professional domination, it still does seem to add plenty of spice to some vanilla couples’ sex lives… Same goes for dominettes, as I call them. True, they aren’t full-time professional BDSM experts, and some of them have simply jumped on the band wagon of findom for obvious reasons, but they may still help you spice up your sex life as a findom-curious submissive and this could be a way for you to enjoy a bit of the fantasy without actually delving into true financial domination, thus avoiding any kind of damage to your finances – although the thrill of paying which you might have been looking for will be proportionally less intense… If, on the contrary, you are looking to push your limits, a professional financial dominatrix might be best suited for you. As a world-class, elite financial dominatrix, my tribute is on the higher side. I still accept paypigs of any income, but it is to be noted that my sessions are for a select clientele only and I will only accept new finsubs who meet certain income requirements or under certain specific conditions – contact me to apply and discuss further.
Finsub, paypig, moneyslave… Who does what?
There are only so many ways to define oneself as a financial submissive, but even within financial domination, there are different ways to submit and different aspects of the fetish that one may be attracted to. Here are a few suggested definitions to help you find yourself within this fetish.
Finsub: This is a contraction of Financial Submissive. This is probably the most general term and is the one I use the most to qualify my own subs. “Finsub” suggests there is a power exchange, and that the protagonist is submitting within his chosen boundaries.
Moneyslave: Unlike the financial submissive, a slave is expected to (financially) surrender completely to his findomme. The relationship is one of Total Power Exchange. A slave isn’t allowed to have desires nor express them, unlike the submissive; he will be treated as a property. Not everyone has the privilege to be my moneyslave, it is a term that I reserve for very special people with whom I have a very unique relationship.
Human ATM: One way to financially surrender to a findomme is to become her human ATM for her to use. The term was first used to describe finsubs who do real time cashmeets (they withdraw a certain amount of money from an ATM only to tribute it to their domme), but it is now common to call a human ATM any finsub who is summoned by his domme only to get money from him, whether online or real time. His sole purpose is to tribute.
Paypig: A paypig is a submissive who finds pleasure in being used to pay his findomme’s bills, be it utility bills, rent, gas, manicure/pedicure, clothing, or anything else! The payment for a findomme’s bill is commonly referred to as tribute. Most paypigs have other fetishes than just findom, which is why I like to assign my bills to paypigs who have a weakness or fetish related to said bill. For example, a hair fetishist paypig will be given my hair salon bill, a foot fetishist paypig will be given my pedicure bill, and a cuckold paypig will be given my dinner date bill…
As a side note, I would like to emphasize that I do not accept “wishlist pigs”. I use my wishlist as a reward for my loyal subs, and I will only indulge your fetish of buying me lingerie, heels or sexy gifts after you have proven your financial devotion to me with your consistency and loyalty, which is why my luxury wishlist is private and only accessible to the members of The Only Cult.
Taking it further…
We have established that Financial Domination entails control. Depending on what your limits are, and how you define yourself within financial domination, several means of control over your finances can be used. This ranges from debt contracts, joint bank accounts, consensual financial blackmail, what I call cardholding (like keyholding, but in this case your chastity key is replaced by your credit card), TeamViewer, to real time sessions, such as cashmeets, shopping sessions my way (as in… Findom shopping sessions, as opposed to sugar baby shopping sessions) or loser dates – contact me to apply and discuss all of these in detail.
So… What finsub are you?
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