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HOME WRECKING FANTASY

One of my personal favorite kinks to engage in, Homewrecking Fantasy, does suffer from a lot of bad press on social media. A lot of dominatrices will refuse to engage in it, arguing that such a fetish isn’t supportive of Female Supremacy, or that it is misogynistic in essence. Is this really an anti-feminist kink at all? How is it related to Financial Domination or Blackmail Fantasy? And finally, what are the psychological motivations behind it?


What’s Homewrecking Fantasy and how is it related to Financial Domination?

Homewrecking Fantasy is a kink where the psysub finds sexual arousal from being seduced and manipulated into ending or ruining his relationship with his partner, real or imagined, to whom he’s married or not. Often, it would be a girlfriend or a wife. In rare cases, it could be also be an ex partner…

For most Homewrecking Fantasy fans, it’s the idea of potentially losing everything, be it their current relationship, marriage, social status or prestige resulting from that union that they find extremely appealing. But in many cases, the financial risks associated with a very possible divorce, such as losing their house, a lot of financial assets or a very consequent sum of money are a also a huge, if not the main part of the fetish.

For others, Homewrecking Fantasy will revolve around the risk of being “outed” to their partner by their Psydomme, who will then play a fantasy Blackmailer, or, as I like to call it, an Erotic Extortionist, who will threaten them to expose the fictional affair to their partner if they don’t pay a certain sum of money.

 

The psychological motivations behind the fetish

Homewrecking Fantasy is a way for a psysub to experience the thrill of a forbidden affair and especially cheating on his partner, but without having to deal with the consequences of an actual affair and its whole lot of collateral damage. The D/s (Dominant/submissive) dynamics that come into play, is that there is also a desire to be coerced, manipulated into the fantasized affair by the Psydomme. The psysub fantasizes about being, in a way, controlled and enslaved emotionally by a Femme Fatale with ulterior motives. Here, the manipulation is consensual, and will comprise of many psychological techniques that many so-called PUAs (Pick Up Artists) use to seduce: body language seduction, covert hypnosis, as well as NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). NLP is often nicknamed “The Science of Manipulation”, which is the reason why I have trademarked the name The Manipulatrix™, being an NLP specialist myself.

Now, what is the psychological background of a submissive seeking such an intense emotional and erotic form of Psychological Domination? Most of the time, these submissives are very happily married, or have a very exciting dating life. What they seem to lack, however, is some kind of challenge in their current relationship(s) where they feel they have too much control. Often, they have a wife who have sacrificed everything for them (or would do so in the blink of an eye), or girlfriends that are hopelessly in love with them. Relinquishing emotional control to a true Manipulatrix is where they finally find release.

In other cases, it can be a way for the psysub to reclaim control over a failing, or failed relationship. Remember the saying “you don’t know what you had until it is gone”? That’s the (potentially masochistic) feeling the psysub can be looking for (consciously or not). If he ended a relationship, or is ending one, delving into Homewrecking Fantasy can challenge his feelings and help him get in touch with certain emotions he thought he would never be able to feel again. The fact that he is experiencing very intense feelings in the context of a Psydom session allows him to explore his emotions safely and if necessary, to stop whenever he reaches his emotional limits. Such Homewrecking Fantasy sessions can be psychologically and emotionally exhausting, but also extremely rewarding with the right communication.

 

Isn’t the fetish about humiliating or disrespecting someone’s wife?

While some submissives do seek humiliation based on their choice of wife (it’s always about themselves and their choices, rather than about anyone else, let alone a partner), true Homewrecking Fantasy actually revolves around the ruination of a relationship. The whole point of this kink, as we noted above, is the emotional surrender to a Manipulatrix using seduction as the main tool for the transfer of power.

And how do you seduce a man? Certainly not by insulting his wife or girlfriend, nor questioning his tastes in women… That’s a different kink entirely. Seduction is about creating an emotional bond using one’s attractiveness (some will say beauty), body language and intellect. It’s about creating a certain chemistry between the two protagonists. And the word “chemistry” isn’t just a figure of speech here… Did you know that when humans bond, their brain releases a substance called oxytocin, the “bonding hormone”, or “love drug”? No wonder that there is such a huge fetish around Love addiction

Homewrecking Fantasy is truly one of my favourite kinks to engage in, because of the high psychological skills required to be able to engage in it safely, of the beauty of the intense emotional bond that can result from such a power exchange, and because it is a fetish where pure seduction is combined with elements of Financial Domination.

 

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CLIP: Erotic Extortion #1

You know why I’m so good at blackmail? Because I make it so incredibly erotic that you will just surrender anything for me… Including what is most precious to you… Let’s see how far that will take you…

 

 

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FINANCIAL DOMINATION

Financial Domination is undoubtedly one of the most infamous of all fetishes. With the exponential growth encountered by the online domination scene, #Findom has become one of the first kinks on Twitter, making it the second most popular kinky hashtag after #Femdom, and surprisingly, before #BDSM and #Fetish, and is in the top three most represented fetishes along with Female Domination or Cuckolding on clips sites such as Clips4sale and iWantClips. Has Findom become something mainstream? And what does a financial submissive do apart from… Paying?


How does Financial Domination work?

Like in every form of domination (Female domination, Hypnotic domination, Psychological Domination, and so on), Financial domination is a kink based on a power exchange, where the submissive relinquishes control over his finances to his Financial Dominatrix (Findomme). Of course, whenever there is a transfer of power, there is an interaction between the submissive and the dominant. Be it during a real time session or via messages for long distance D/s relationship, this interaction is a prerequisite to any findom relationship as it allows the two protagonists to define the boundaries of the transfer of power, as well as validate consent. Without this interaction, there is no domination. While this might seem obvious, it is still common to encounter fetish enthusiasts who will mistake monetary tributes or tips for Financial Domination. While it is perfectly fine (and much appreciated) to send money (or buy gifts) to your domme outside of a fetish transaction or of a payment for a session, whatever the amount, this doesn’t qualify as financial domination because it doesn’t entail a power exchange. Rather, it is simply a gift, showing devotion and appreciation to your domme. It isn’t rare for successful dominatrices to be showered in gifts and money from their submissives, and they will make the difference between gifts – that don’t require anything from them in return, and financial domination – which requires actual work from them… Similarly, a payment for your session or for a fetish item doesn’t necessarily qualify as financial domination, whatever the amount: outside of the context of a transfer of power, it is just that: a payment for a fetish item or for a session.

 

Is Financial Domination expensive?

Just like pink furry handcuffs are now readily available in every lingerie shop and not just in specialized stores, you will be able to find amateur findommes on social networks such as Twitter or Instagram accepting two to three figures tributes very easily. One might say that pink furry handcuffs don’t exactly qualify as BDSM nor domination, but I would argue that while it certainly isn’t typical of elite, professional domination, it still does seem to add plenty of spice to some vanilla couples’ sex lives… Same goes for dominettes, as I call them. True, they aren’t full-time professional BDSM experts, and some of them have simply jumped on the band wagon of findom for obvious reasons, but they may still help you spice up your sex life as a findom-curious submissive and this could be a way for you to enjoy a bit of the fantasy without actually delving into true financial domination, thus avoiding any kind of damage to your finances – although the thrill of paying which you might have been looking for will be proportionally less intense… If, on the contrary, you are looking to push your limits, a professional financial dominatrix might be best suited for you. As a world-class, elite financial dominatrix, my tribute is on the higher side. I still accept paypigs of any income, but it is to be noted that my sessions are for a select clientele only and I will only accept new finsubs who meet certain income requirements or under certain specific conditions – contact me to apply and discuss further.

 

Finsub, paypig, moneyslave… Who does what?

There are only so many ways to define oneself as a financial submissive, but even within financial domination, there are different ways to submit and different aspects of the fetish that one may be attracted to. Here are a few suggested definitions to help you find yourself within this fetish.

Finsub: This is a contraction of Financial Submissive. This is probably the most general term and is the one I use the most to qualify my own subs. “Finsub” suggests there is a power exchange, and that the protagonist is submitting within his chosen boundaries.

Moneyslave: Unlike the financial submissive, a slave is expected to (financially) surrender completely to his findomme. The relationship is one of Total Power Exchange. A slave isn’t allowed to have desires nor express them, unlike the submissive; he will be treated as a property. Not everyone has the privilege to be my moneyslave, it is a term that I reserve for very special people with whom I have a very unique relationship.

Human ATM: One way to financially surrender to a findomme is to become her human ATM for her to use. The term was first used to describe finsubs who do real time cashmeets (they withdraw a certain amount of money from an ATM only to tribute it to their domme), but it is now common to call a human ATM any finsub who is summoned by his domme only to get money from him, whether online or real time. His sole purpose is to tribute.

Paypig: A paypig is a submissive who finds pleasure in being used to pay his findomme’s bills, be it utility bills, rent, gas, manicure/pedicure, clothing, or anything else! The payment for a findomme’s bill is commonly referred to as tribute. Most paypigs have other fetishes than just findom, which is why I like to assign my bills to paypigs who have a weakness or fetish related to said bill. For example, a hair fetishist paypig will be given my hair salon bill, a foot fetishist paypig will be given my pedicure bill, and a cuckold paypig will be given my dinner date bill…

As a side note, I would like to emphasize that I do not accept “wishlist pigs”. I use my wishlist as a reward for my loyal subs, and I will only indulge your fetish of buying me lingerie, heels or sexy gifts after you have proven your financial devotion to me with your consistency and loyalty, which is why my luxury wishlist is private and only accessible to the members of The Only Cult.

 

Taking it further…

We have established that Financial Domination entails control. Depending on what your limits are, and how you define yourself within financial domination, several means of control over your finances can be used. This ranges from debt contracts, joint bank accounts, consensual financial blackmail, what I call cardholding (like keyholding, but in this case your chastity key is replaced by your credit card), TeamViewer, to real time sessions, such as cashmeets, shopping sessions my way (as in… Findom shopping sessions, as opposed to sugar baby shopping sessions) or loser datescontact me to apply and discuss all of these in detail.

 

So… What finsub are you?

 

 

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Any reproduction and/or partial or complete use of content and services offered by The Only Theodora, by any means whatsoever, without the prior written authorization of The Only Theodora and affiliates, is strictly prohibited and constitutes an infringement under Articles L 335-2, Articles L 343-1 and following of the Code of Intellectual Property, national regulations and international conventions. Violation of these provisions subjects the offender and all persons responsible for criminal and civil penalties provided by law.

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CLIP: Financial Blackmail

Time to cross the line and delve into true financial domination, with a very dangerous blackmail video… How far will this take you?

 

 

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CLIP: Blackmail Hypno-Therapy

Are you ready for your blackmail hypnotherapy session? It is time for you to truly acknowledge your fetish and the needs that come with it… Time to find your limits… Will I cure you? Or will I make it worse? Buy this clip to find out…
WARNING: An intense, genuine Ericksonian hypnosis session, proved extremely efficient on my real time subs… I will not be held responsible for feelings of addiction and dependency resulting from viewing this clip, or for physiological or psychosomatic transformations that might occur after watching this video. This video isn’t recommended for those with mental illness such as (but not limited to) depression. USE AT YOUR OWN RISK.

 

 

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CLIP: I want her digits

How’s your wife? Have you eventually told her about our little secret? You’ve been quite evasive lately… I’m starting to think it might be better if I tell her myself. Or will you? I want her digits anyway. Don’t worry, if you do as I say, you won’t have anything to worry about… Or will you?

 

 


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CLIP: Foot Blackmail

I’m sure you know full well that I do have a huge foot fetish. Since you haven’t told your wife about our little secret… I’ll let you buy your way out of your predicament by worshipping my divine feet like they deserve. Better start sucking them toes right now…

 

 


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CLIP: Perverse Hyp-Feminization

You’ve loved my hyp-feminization clips… Now is a good time to take a step further into perversion. Get yourself all dolled up for me, as I mesmerize you into embracing your new emasculated self. If you haven’t viewed my 24h Vagina Hyp-Feminization clip yet, it is recommended to do so for more intense sexual sensations. Let’s see how emasculated you can get. You are safe here with me. Your dirty secret is safe with me… Or is it?

This clip utilizes a trigger previously implanted in my clip “Hyp-Feminization: 24h Vagina”, contains genuine mesmerize and NLP.

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CLIP: Blackmail quickie

Were you intimidated by my previous blackmail clips? Too dangerous for you, maybe? Here’s the perfect blackmail clip for you, weakling. You know me, I love to tease you, I’ll let you jerk, even… I’m that sweet. Or am I? You’ll find out soon…

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CLIP: Blackmail Slut

You’ve asked for it… Begged, even. A bit suicidal of you to come to a financial dominatrix for this kind of fetish, but here you are anyway, my little blackmail slut. Don’t say I didn’t warn you…

This clip is part of my True Submission series, along with the clips Slut for Sexual Rejection, Just Surrender and Louboutin Feet Slut.

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