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Financial Domination is undoubtedly one of the most infamous of all fetishes. With the exponential growth encountered by the online domination scene, #Findom has become one of the first kinks on Twitter, making it the second most popular kinky hashtag after #Femdom, and surprisingly, before #BDSM and #Fetish, and is in the top three most represented fetishes along with Female Domination or Cuckolding on clips sites such as Clips4sale and iWantClips. Has Findom become something mainstream? And what does a financial submissive do apart from… Paying?

How does Financial Domination work?

Like in every form of domination (Female domination, Hypnotic domination, Psychological Domination, and so on), Financial domination is a kink based on a power exchange, where the submissive relinquishes control over his finances to his Financial Dominatrix (Findomme). Of course, whenever there is a transfer of power, there is an interaction between the submissive and the dominant. Be it during a real time session or via messages for long distance D/s relationship, this interaction is a prerequisite to any findom relationship as it allows the two protagonists to define the boundaries of the transfer of power, as well as validate consent. Without this interaction, there is no domination. While this might seem obvious, it is still common to encounter fetish enthusiasts who will mistake monetary tributes or tips for Financial Domination. While it is perfectly fine (and much appreciated) to send money (or buy gifts) to your domme outside of a fetish transaction or of a payment for a session, whatever the amount, this doesn’t qualify as financial domination because it doesn’t entail a power exchange. Rather, it is simply a gift, showing devotion and appreciation to your domme. It isn’t rare for successful dominatrices to be showered in gifts and money from their submissives, and they will make the difference between gifts – that don’t require anything from them in return, and financial domination – which requires actual work from them… Similarly, a payment for your session or for a fetish item doesn’t necessarily qualify as financial domination, whatever the amount: outside of the context of a transfer of power, it is just that: a payment for a fetish item or for a session.


Is Financial Domination expensive?

Just like pink furry handcuffs are now readily available in every lingerie shop and not just in specialized stores, you will be able to find amateur findommes on social networks such as Twitter or Instagram accepting two to three figures tributes very easily. One might say that pink furry handcuffs don’t exactly qualify as BDSM nor domination, but I would argue that while it certainly isn’t typical of elite, professional domination, it still does seem to add plenty of spice to some vanilla couples’ sex lives… Same goes for dominettes, as I call them. True, they aren’t full-time professional BDSM experts, and some of them have simply jumped on the band wagon of findom for obvious reasons, but they may still help you spice up your sex life as a findom-curious submissive and this could be a way for you to enjoy a bit of the fantasy without actually delving into true financial domination, thus avoiding any kind of damage to your finances – although the thrill of paying which you might have been looking for will be proportionally less intense… If, on the contrary, you are looking to push your limits, a professional financial dominatrix might be best suited for you. As a world-class, elite financial dominatrix, my tribute is on the higher side. I still accept paypigs of any income, but it is to be noted that my sessions are for a select clientele only and I will only accept new finsubs who meet certain income requirements or under certain specific conditions – contact me to apply and discuss further.


Finsub, paypig, moneyslave… Who does what?

There are only so many ways to define oneself as a financial submissive, but even within financial domination, there are different ways to submit and different aspects of the fetish that one may be attracted to. Here are a few suggested definitions to help you find yourself within this fetish.

Finsub: This is a contraction of Financial Submissive. This is probably the most general term and is the one I use the most to qualify my own subs. “Finsub” suggests there is a power exchange, and that the protagonist is submitting within his chosen boundaries.

Moneyslave: Unlike the financial submissive, a slave is expected to (financially) surrender completely to his findomme. The relationship is one of Total Power Exchange. A slave isn’t allowed to have desires nor express them, unlike the submissive; he will be treated as a property. Not everyone has the privilege to be my moneyslave, it is a term that I reserve for very special people with whom I have a very unique relationship.

Human ATM: One way to financially surrender to a findomme is to become her human ATM for her to use. The term was first used to describe finsubs who do real time cashmeets (they withdraw a certain amount of money from an ATM only to tribute it to their domme), but it is now common to call a human ATM any finsub who is summoned by his domme only to get money from him, whether online or real time. His sole purpose is to tribute.

Paypig: A paypig is a submissive who finds pleasure in being used to pay his findomme’s bills, be it utility bills, rent, gas, manicure/pedicure, clothing, or anything else! The payment for a findomme’s bill is commonly referred to as tribute. Most paypigs have other fetishes than just findom, which is why I like to assign my bills to paypigs who have a weakness or fetish related to said bill. For example, a hair fetishist paypig will be given my hair salon bill, a foot fetishist paypig will be given my pedicure bill, and a cuckold paypig will be given my dinner date bill…

As a side note, I would like to emphasize that I do not accept “wishlist pigs”. I use my wishlist as a reward for my loyal subs, and I will only indulge your fetish of buying me lingerie, heels or sexy gifts after you have proven your financial devotion to me with your consistency and loyalty, which is why my luxury wishlist is private and only accessible to the members of The Only Cult.


Taking it further…

We have established that Financial Domination entails control. Depending on what your limits are, and how you define yourself within financial domination, several means of control over your finances can be used. This ranges from debt contracts, joint bank accounts, consensual financial blackmail, what I call cardholding (like keyholding, but in this case your chastity key is replaced by your credit card), TeamViewer, to real time sessions, such as cashmeets, shopping sessions my way (as in… Findom shopping sessions, as opposed to sugar baby shopping sessions) or loser datescontact me to apply and discuss all of these in detail.


So… What finsub are you?



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CLIP: Easy money

…for me, that is!



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CLIP: Stroke your money away JOI

Oh no, you’re not into FinDom, of course not… Right, let’s just have a, say, “normal” jerk off session… What could possibly go wrong?



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CLIP: Louboutin Payslave

I don’t care whether you’re a lawyer or a student – you could be a janitor for all I care, your job is to make sure I only wear the newest Louboutin. I’m sure you noticed, I only wear Loubs from the latest collections, or runway custom models. You’ll ruin your life and your finances so I never have to worry about wearing a pair from a past season…



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CLIP: Why would I take your money?

What made you believe I would actually accept to take your money? Being ruined by my perfection is a rare privilege… Why not give these miserable $50 tributes I don’t need to an instadomme instead? She’ll thank you for it…



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CLIP: Be my ATM!

Time to put your willingness to serve into practice! Discover the thrill of being used for your money and become a human ATM… Addictive, isn’t it?



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CLIP: Work like a dog

Everything is in the title. You will work like a dog, making me more money, starting today… This will be your first step into financial slavery. Ready to take the plunge?





Many of my subs were totally new to Femdom when they came to submit to me. What may seem obvious to some more experienced subs isn’t necessarily evident for newer ones. And as if the Femdom etiquette wasn’t complicated enough, even dommes themselves often seem confused as to which title they should go by, unsure of how to act accordingly, resulting in even more confused subs… So, how do you refer to a domme? How to be a good sub? What should you avoid to do so you don’t come across as rude? How do you truly submit?

How should I refer to you?

My name is Theodora. Goddess is my title. Which means most people will call me Theodora, except you: you will refer to me as Goddess Theodora, or simply Goddess. It may sound obvious, but even outside of a Dominant/Submissive relationship, mistakes are often made. For example, I have seen publications about me referring to me as “Goddess Theodora”. This is understandable when the article is written by a sub, otherwise people outside of a D/S relationship with me should simply refer to me as Theodora. I am French, and nicknames aren’t really a thing where I am from, so by all means, avoid calling me Theo unless I gave you my permission to do so, which is very unlikely to happen if you are a sub. Nicknames are reserved for close friends.


Goddess, Queen, Princess, Mistress… Who does what?

Subs should always use their domme’s title, capitalized, when referring to them. Don’t try using any other title that you fancy: even though your intentions are good, it may come across as rude to do so. While some dommes go by the title “Princess”, in which case it is required from you to refer to them as such, any domme whose title is “Goddess”, “Queen” or “Empress” will most likely take “Princess” as an insult. Not that a “Princess” is worth less than a “Goddess”…

The difference lies in their personality and how the power exchange is viewed: a Princess will have demands, and wants to be spoiled. A Goddess, rather than being spoiled, expects to be worshipped, hence the notion of tributes. It’s a matter of vocabulary. “Princess” conveys possible notions of brattiness and youth, it often has a lolita vibe to it. “Mistress” is a different story : it conveys notions of closeness and/or intimacy, of seduction even, which is why it is a popular title amongst BDSM dommes who engage in the most intimate practices in physical domination, such as pegging, for example. “Goddess”, on the contrary, conveys notion of inaccessibility, of idealism. It also entails a strong, iconic imagery. Don’t expect the same practices from a Goddess than from a Mistress. Also, if a Mistress doesn’t always have a face in order to protect her privacy, a Goddess on the opposite, capitalizes on her physical attributes. She is the icon of her own cult.

Now, the number of titles that you will come across in the scene is ever-growing, but these are the titles you are most likely to encounter. I, myself, have elected to be a Goddess. I will tolerate to be approached as “Majesty”, but you will be expected to correct yourself and call me by the right title when further interacting with me. “Princess” or “Mistress”, on the other hand, will not be considered acceptable. Making sure you are calling your domme by the right title is a great first step into submitting.


I want to become your slave, Goddess!

At least, you got the title right… But now, you need to understand the difference between a sub and a slave. We all know what true slavery is: History has shown us how serious it could get. Slavery to Female Dominants is no different, except for one thing… It is consensual. A slave gives up his right to choose: he will be expected to obey without question. His only purpose is to serve. He doesn’t expect anything in return. It’s a one-way relationship. A slave doesn’t get to “want” anything, he will not make demands. He will totally surrender to his domme, who then becomes responsible for his safety. He belongs to her, she owns him. A sub is a person who wishes to engage in a Dominant/Submissive relationship, where he will get to explore fetishes in the role of… The submissive, obviously. He will be listened to by the dominant, who will decide whether to grant his possible requests or not, depending of their own fetishes. Again, that may sound obvious, but the number of subs coming to me introducing themselves as slaves, only to make demands, negotiate or question my orders at the first opportunity is high enough to be worth an article. Knowing what you really want out of domination start with knowing how to define yourself first.


How do I approach you? What is a good slave?

You exist to make my existence better. I already have everything I want, the only thing I can never get enough of is, you guessed it, money. I have enough shoes or clothes I don’t need already, therefore buying me sexy gifts is a privilege reserved to my owned moneyslaves. It shows affection rather than devotion. A good sub/slave knows this and will show his devotion by tributing consistently. I’m sure you noticed that I already have many devoted finsubs and that I am highly in demand, consequently, only real sacrifice will get you noticed. Approach respectfully with a monetary tribute that reflects your motivation to be owned by me.


I want to do real time sessions… What do you do and how much do you charge?

I am sure you are aware that I specialize in financial domination. But it would be more accurate to say that I specialize in psychological domination, as opposed to physical domination. My real time sessions consist essentially of Femdom hypnosis, foot and shoe worship, spit/smoke fetish, cashmeets, shopping sprees… And Contractual Financial Domination (terms will only be discussed in private). Real time sessions are mostly reserved for my finsubs and owned financial slaves, who have proven consistent with their tithes and tributes. Which is why I don’t charge a fixed price for sessions: they are a part of the findom relationship I have with my subs, and as such, how much I will ask for a session will vary: my moneyslaves are expected to do their best in terms of financial sacrifice for me. If you aren’t one of my subs yet and really want to meet me, don’t expect it to be cheap. I will expect real sacrifice from you. Never ask me “how much”. If it doesn’t hurt, it probably isn’t enough. If you want a fixed price, you should order a custom clip from me instead. That will get you noticed.


What is financial domination?

I get asked about financial domination many times a day, by subs and aspiring dommes alike. This fetish takes root in psychological domination. It’s only a different way of viewing power exchange, where money is the fetish. Basically, the financial sub surrenders his finances to his domme, or he will let his domme take control of them, as a way to give up his financial freedom. No wonder the number of findommes in the scene is ever-growing… Although it may sound like easy money for the aspiring findomme, true financial domination requires both profound knowledge of psychology and experience in female domination. Moreover, financial domination rarely exists on its own. Rather, it is only one fetish among many others.


Ready to submit? Contact me to surrender to your Only Goddess…



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Any reproduction and/or partial or complete use of content and services offered by The Only Theodora™, by any means whatsoever, without the prior written authorization of The Only Theodora™ and affiliates, is strictly prohibited and constitutes an infringement under Articles L 335-2, Articles L 343-1 and following of the Code of Intellectual Property, national regulations and international conventions. Violation of these provisions subjects the offender and all persons responsible for criminal and civil penalties provided by law and will be subject to prosecution.

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CLIP: Finsub Trigger – Orgasmic Activation

This is the follow up to my clip Finsub Trigger, in which we have implanted an anchor into your submissive brain… Now it’s time to activate it for the first time! Ready to experience your first triggered financial orgasm?

A genuine Mesmerize file, including finger snapping, anchors and beautifully combining NLP and Ericksonian mesmerize… It is best viewed as an activation of my previous clip “Finsub Trigger”, and can be repeated as much as you like for reinf0rcement… But I will not be held responsible for you being addicted to this clip that you will want to play on repeat… You’ve been warned!

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CLIP: Finsub Trigger

I like my financial slaves wrapped around my little finger, and ready to obey my commands at the snap of my fingers. Which is why I will be implanting a finger snap trigger in your little submissive brain with this very clip!

A genuine hypnosis file, including finger snapping, anchors and beautifully combining NLP and Ericksonian mesmerize… Another clip will follow so we can both test and reinfor-ce your newly implanted trigger!

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CLIP: 10k Findom Challenge

For true findom addicts only!
This is the financial drain you’ve been searching for all your life. You have enjoyed maxing out your credit cards for me, you loved paying me exorbitant tributes, and now you’ve got a chance to step up your game even more. Are you ready for the most dangerous findom game you’ve ever played?

Too impatient to play? Buy this clip with my markup code IAMYOURATM! You’re welcome…

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CLIP: I’m rich, bitch

Hello, bitch. You know it already: I’m rich. Filthy rich. And that, my little slut, fascinates you. You have a fascination for money, and for wealthy femmes fatales with ulterior motives. Look at you, you can’t help yourself: too fascinated by my precious, high maintenance and crystal clad Self. I’m rich, bitch.

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